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| Photo by: Denver for The New York Daily News |
Deeply moving.
But here is my question. If he had not killed himself would the very same people have stood up for him, would you even have cared? I would like to say yes but from first hand experience I can tell you some people will stand up for you and plenty do not have the courage, or can't be bothered.
I did better than Tyler because I am older and I had more resources but still it is not easy. I want to the NYPD, lawyers and I have staunch supporters in general because I have done so much good consistently helping my community, volunteering and even giving large amounts of platelets and even my white blood cells.
People who don't even know me have stood up for me and thanks and gratitude to you all. It wasn't one person and in Tyler Clementi's case it was not one person.
It can involve the internet or not involve the internet when bullies gang up on you and lie, trash you and blame you.
Why would they do that? They may be covering up their corrupt activities, thrusting their guilt on to you, who hate you because they deep down admire you and you may even make them feel inadequate and they want to kill you or harm you or in gay bashing and I straight but been gay bashed it is their shameful feelings they have about their own sexuality so they dump on someone else's.
It also gets down to lack of self acceptance or self hate and dumping on someone else, bullying on the computer or in the flesh is like a vacation from their self hate, like a tea pot letting off steam.
The photo is moving and I just ask this, speak up and be courageous for people when they are alive...it will make a difference and yes it takes courage.
I just saw the film "The Winter's Bone" and there is a scene in the film and in the book that is so significant to me....A gang of bullies and they do not fit your stereotype...they are older white women, sisters who did something very violent in their twisted way make amends.... Why? Because everyone knows... but the victim never told anyone.....but people all knew and the sisters knew everyone knew.
My point is very evil or not even very ill but awful terrible people do terrible things and I know first hand and they get away with it or they seemingly do but I tell myself they really don't...
Patience....
karma will be served....slowly -- not in the time frame you or I might like and maybe as slow as molasses but in away that would also be better than anything you or I could conjure plus they are them...therefore they are their worst punishment already.
That is how I cope.
