Tina Negron, 24 East Village, murdered, worked 2 jobs to support her deaf mother and sister

The New York Daily News, "Family Mourns East Village Stabbing"  article reports Tina Negron, murdered here in the East Village, worked 2 jobs to support her deaf mother and 14 year old sister as in "saint" as far as I am concerned.

Of course she knew the man that murdered her and he was troubled.  A comment on The New York Daily News website wondered why she,  a good person, why she  gave a troubled drug addict her time? Didn't she deserve better?  

Yes, she did but the reality is there is so much violence towards women and it appears as if our society and the global community has a high tolerance for letting abuse go on.  There are shocking displays on the street, in the entrances of our own buildings, lobbies, homes, work places.  Abusers blame the victim.  They literally try to convince the victim it is their fault. They can be so abusive, blame the victim, even ask to meet with the victim after threatening behavior as if they don't understand or are incapable of understanding how disturbing their behavior is, and there are so many red lights...warning signals that go ignored.  Even if you get a restraining order, what good does it do? (After writing this piece I got a comment on this blog about Tina Negron's last words and I realized I needed to add that abusers want to "control" women".  I was told Tina's last words were stop trying to control me.  Stop trying to control women.   Trying to control is part of the m.o. just like blaming the victim.)

In Adrienne Shelly's case she just asked for some peace and quiet (I am going with the first report of how and why she was murdered) and she was killed.  Adrienne Shelly did not know her murderer.  The same with Imette St. Guillen and Jennfier Moore and they were brutally raped and murdered.  Boitumelo McCallum murderd by her boyfriend in NYU housing died too young and violently.  Tina Negron and all these women that range from 18 years old on up death's or abduction leading to their heinous murders were all with in a mile or two of where I live.

There is all kinds of violence towards women and it cans start with words and I believe lay the ground work for escalation.

A first hand example that seems like a "small slight",  a man modeling subtle but clearly hostile behavior towards me to a young man (more a boy) in front of me to make it clear  I have no value and so for me it is easy to see why there is so much violence towards girls and women.  It is pervasive and very much accepted and it starts in small ways with verbal abuse and escalates. It can also involve groups of men and of course it can occur with females both in terms of violence and murder.   I believe statistically there is  more male to female violence globally ending in murder.     My theory is more females die this way than from breast cancer but this death toll is not addressed in the way the cancer death toll is which would mean addressing the shocking hostile behavior from the root and stopping it and getting some kind of care, education, de-escalation, more responsibility from "role models???" and their destructive behavior towards young women that we read about in the media constantly. 

In response to why such a good woman opened her self up to a man that was not -- well it happens all the time and we can look in to the ratio of good single men that are available vs not, we can ask if the good heart of Tina Negron thought she could help this man?   Who knows but the East Village has lost a good hearted young woman, a saint as far as I am concerned and another woman, Rosheda Andradas who courageously tried to save Tina;  I am assuming she is in the hospital and I am  wishing her a speedy recovery.  I can't imagine what Tina Negron's mother and sister, all the people that loved her are feeling.   This is another woman that died in Manhattan in a horrifically violent way and many did not know their murderer and plenty did.

Walk down the street in NYC or in the lobby of your building, take a look and a listen and see if you see some kind of verbal violence or physical intimidation that let us say prevents a woman from entering the elevator or some kind of group behavior that makes a woman feel unsafe to even walk in to her home.  I remember walking home with a friend (late '8o's?) to her apt. on Ludlow and the drug dealers hanging out in the stair well and how frightening it was but it happens more than people want to know at all economic levels, all back grounds, etc.

Tina Negron, rest in PEACE and my heart goes out to her family.  I wish the other victim swift healing.  Rosheda Andradas according to the piece I read in today's The New York Daily News rushed to help Tina Negron and that was an incredible bravery and I pray she heals quickly.